The issue is that many people are out of balance and their seeking and attention is directed towards odd things that never give true content.
When we start to fall in love with a boyfriend or girlfriend we connect to the energy of their imbalances as they do to us. Subtly we may have an affect on the other where we start to work through some of these things, but that depends on not only our personal power but on our self-sufficiency so as not to be swept into the flow of that imbalance as it continues in its cycle.
Relating is not always a type that is a boyfriend/ girlfriend partnership, but even when not, we must relate to the energy currents that present themself in the other that we are facing.
We cannot assume ownership for anyone elses energy flows, or the awareness currents that they are themselves.
If a person cannot accept your expressions and outward flowing energy, and does nothing in response to that flow other than judge, critisise and attempt to unvalidify its movement from a mental conclusion then we must accept that they possess an unwillingness to co-relate. It is often the case that one will not accept our outward flow, but will always expect us to be agreeable, accept or at least acknowledge the value of what awareness is in there energy.
Acceptance:
Acceptance is a simple witnessing of the persona that stands in front of you in the moment without trying to bend their currents, reduce their currents mentally or gossip about a 'lack' that needs to be corrected. When we sit with our families we witness, and we know the ways of some as they do of us. Because love runs in a family, there is an acceptance. There are qualities that some have, that others do not.
Seeking:
I think that when we look for this close kind of a relationship, we need to look for someone who has a balanced vision of life, and who has an energy that is nourishing to ours. One who can fill us with nice energy and who can let us show our energy and encourage us to not be afraid to do so... One who does not judge all of our external expressiveness.
Self-observation:
Each person is a little stream of energy that springs forth from the earth. Our energy can get stuck into things and often for years we are aware of it but do not know how to affect that circumstance or reinvest that energy.
